Moving from the past to the present

When people are stuck in conflict, they are often stuck in the past. Past experiences or pain shape how they perceive each other and how they respond to each other. Discussions about current realities are often derailed when one of the parties brings up events from the past that are often unresolved, but not relevant to the present.

A key to resolving conflict is to be in the present to shape the future you want. What happened yesterday is not as important as what you want to have happen tomorrow. While you may disagree on what really happened yesterday, the reality is that neither party can change it. It is possible however, to change what you create in the future.

If you are stuck in a conflict, try to let go of the past and get clear on what you want to create in the present and the future. While letting go can be hard, hanging on to the past can be even harder.

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